Elderly Mental Health: Changes and Challenges of Growing Older

We often look to someone older than us and think: they must have it all figured out.

After all, they’ve been through decades of ups and downs, built careers, raised families, and weathered storms we may not even know about. But the truth is – just because someone is older doesn’t mean they’re no longer struggling.

Aging brings with it a unique set of emotional and psychological challenges. Older adults may have resolved past battles, but new seasons of life often come with fresh uncertainties. And yet, their struggles often go unspoken, hidden behind the assumption that they should be “strong enough” to handle it all.

Let’s explore how aging can impact one’s sense of self – and why elderly mental health support matters.

Changing identity at work

Growing older comes with a shift in identity – at work and at home. As technology evolves and the world changes, older workers may find themselves struggling to keep up. They may feel less useful at the workplace despite their years of experience. Some will have to work under superiors who are younger than them, or feel self-conscious about competing with their younger co-workers. For the retired ones, the sudden loss of structure and now-abundant free-time can quickly make them feel empty and aimless.

Changing identity at home

Parents may find their dynamics with their children shifting and transforming – as children turn into adults, become independent individuals, leave the home, and set up their own family. No longer are their children relying on them for every need or advice. The “empty nest” stage often triggers loneliness or a loss of purpose. And as the years pass, roles can even reverse – with ageing parents beginning to rely on their children for physical, emotional, and financial support. This role reversal, though natural, is not always easy to navigate emotionally.

Changing identity as individuals

The reality is that everyone’s bodies will decline as they age. Things that once felt easy – like going out for a run or reading a book – will one day feel strenuous, painful, or impossible. One of the mental toils of ageing is coming to terms with one’s changing body and aims in life. This can come with feelings of grief and anxiety, and involve setting new boundaries and goals.

You’re never too old to ask for help

Age doesn’t make anyone immune to mental health challenges — but it also doesn’t make anyone less deserving of support. Whether you’re 60 or 85, it's okay to feel lost or overwhelmed. Seeking mental health therapy in older age is a courageous and empowering choice. You're not alone — and it's never too late to prioritise your emotional wellbeing.

If you or a loved one is navigating emotional struggles later in life, here are a few things that can help:

·      Talk to someone – a family member, friends, or a counsellor in Singapore

·      Establish routines and goals to provide structure to your days

·      Connect with peers in the same stage of life to share your experiences and support each other

·      Engage in hobbies, volunteering, or learn a new skill to rediscover joy and purpose

·      Be kind to yourself – your emotions and struggles are valid

And if you are amongst the younger generation, don’t forget to check in on your parents, older relatives, or older adult friends. Check in. Ask. Listen. Sometimes a simple conversation can open the door to healing.